You Gotta Feel It to Heal It
Some years back, I volunteered each week on suicide and
crisis line. Once a week for four hours a night I'd answer
calls from all types of people in need.
We might get a woman calling who wanted to die to just
completely end her pain; she was looking to this phone
call as a last resort, for someone to tell her why she
shouldn't kill herself.
Or we'd get the man who wasn't suicidal but was in severe
crisis, nonetheless; he'd feel as if his life were falling apart -
wife was leaving him and taking the kids all at the same
time he just lost his job. He'd need to talk to us to get his
emotions out and in order, and to get temporarily balanced.
And then there were the many who were just lonely and
wanted to talk to anyone who would listen and be there.
With all callers, we'd listen without judgement, lift some of
that pain off their shoulders, lighten the load, give them some
light, even if it were temporary.
We weren't a substitute for therapy but we used some of the
tools. We'd ask them tough questions to get to the core of
the problem. Some of the times the caller wouldn't even know
what was causing her turmoil. We went by saying "you gotta
feel it to heal it."
If you're not feeling what's really bothering you, you'll never
get better. All that repressed emotion buried deep in you.
To get better you've got to get to the root of the problem.
You'd have to talk about these painful things. If you were
stuffing then you weren't feeling. And if you're not feeling,
you're making things much worse and setting yourself up
for a world of hurt.
It was critical that you confront your fears and problems;
Don't ignore your areas of need. It might hurt but in the
long run you'll feel much better.
On the phones, we'd have to make the callers feel things
they might have never felt before. It wasn't easy for them
but it was the only way to get the healing process moving
along.
So how does this relate to exercise, you're wondering.
Well, as most of you know me by now, EVERYTHING relates
to exercise because everything relates to your body. The
rules of the mind are also rules of the body: You gotta feel
it to heal it.
You've got to feel your muscles working.
You've got to feel your body moving.
You've got to feel exactly what your body's doing in the NOW.
You've got to feel on what you want your body to do and be
Where does the healing part come in?
By exercising the muscles and feeling how they're supposed
to be, you heal them.
"Heal them?" you ask.
Yes.
Most people have sick bodies, weak and out of shape. Ignoring
your body and muscles is like ignoring your feelings. Most
people have neglected physical activity like some neglect
emotions, burying them only to become completely dysfunctional.
It's like having a dysfunctional body. A body that has repressed
muscles like the mind has repressed emotions.
Just a little bit at a time, start feeling your muscles, then healing
your body. Eventually you can handle more physically, like the
more you feel your emotions you can handle more psychologically.
Soon your body will be strong and bullet proof. But you gotta
start healing it now.
It might be strange and foreign when you first start exercising,
but when you're in touch with your body - like when you're in
touch with your emotions - your health and happiness is assured.
Wishing you the best,
Eddie Baran
P.S. Talk about feeling and healing. My Gymnastic Abs
program http://www.eddiebaran.com/gymnastic_abs.html will
heal you of any bodily weakness. When you FEEL these exercises
not only will you HEAL your body, you will STEEL it, i.e. turn your
body into steel - strong, resilient, bullet proof, rock solid.
P.P.S. These gymnastic ab exercises feel great. You've got to
try them to feel.