Focus on Fitness Not Fatness
Years ago I was addicted to donuts. Every night after work I'd inhale
three or four of them. Part of this was to try to fill up some of the
emptiness I was feeling, and I'm not talking about my stomach; and part
of it was because donuts just taste good - sugar, fat and dough. It
don't get no better than that.
Well, a good two months of this and I had packed on a sizable amount of
fat and dough myself. So I cut them out of my life. Of course this was
pure misery. It felt like the ultimate sacrifice. This lasted for a
while but it was a huge struggle and I was even unhappier this way.
Eventually I came back to the donuts and the dough and fat came back to me.
But why did I go back to donuts when I was focused on not going back?
All of my energy was against it yet I still returned.
The reason was because that's the way it works.
Focus on something, whether you want it or not, and that's what you'll
get. If you focus on giving up donuts it won't happen, at least not
without a lot of discomfort and a fight.
But if you focus on eating a lot of fruits and vegetables, and fill
yourself up with those, then eventually the donuts will fall away. Even if
you give yourself permission to eat donuts.
That's what I did. I continued to eat donuts without the guilt and at
the same time
I started eating lots of fruits and vegetables. I figured if I was
going to eat garbage, I might as well wash it down with a ton of good food
and hopefully it'll drown it out.
Eventually, I started enjoying the good food so much that I lost
interest in the bad food. And I wasn't really trying to. It just happened
naturally. What happens is that your values will shift when you aim for
the positive and don't try to forcefully change the negative.
So here's the deal:
Dont focus on emptiness, lack, or loss but on fulfillment.
Focus not on what you're leaving behind but on what you're gaining.
Dont' focus on guilt but on the peace you're after.
Don't focus on how horrible you are (besides, you ain't as bad as you
seem to think) but focus on how good you're going to be.
Focus on fitness not fatness.
Sure, you don't want to be feeding off of donuts all the time. These
things will fall away naturally when you're in a better place. Why?
Because you've aimed for the good instead of away from the bad. You really
won't be interested in them as your values will have shifted. It will
seem natural and effortless with no feeling of sacrifice or pain.
To this day I still eat donuts once in a while. It's nothing at this
point so I can do it. I'm focused on the being in the good instead of
being out of the bad.
Wishing you the best,
Eddie Baran
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